• 04Mar

    I had a startling thought this morning.

    I have been a single mother for five years!

    Strange as it may be, I knew that I had been a widow for five years but somehow I didn’t quite connect that with parenting.  Of course, I paused for reflection.  Benjamin was 6, he will be 13 next year (that thought alone has caused all kinds of interesting reflections).  Caleb never even knew his daddy.  He has no idea what it’s like to have two parents.  In fact, most of my kids have no idea what it’s like to have a two-parent home.  They have vague memories and ideas of what they think it means.  They have weird ideas like “Grandpa is our daddy” or the nanny is our “other mommy,” but they really have no idea how a two-parent family would function.

    Then I looked at my children.  None of them have gone off the deep end (they are a bit young for that, I guess).  They are well behaved for the most part.  They are responsible and capable of many things.  They help with the housework and watching out for each other.  Sometimes they even think to do something nice for Mom.  There are things that we are working on, of course, but who isn’t?  It’s not easy being a single parent, but I’m guessing God has been helping quite a bit because I think my kids are doing o.k.

    Huh. Five years.  We might make it yet.

3 Comments to Parenting for 5 Years!

  • You came to my mind this week as I was praying for a friend from college who recently became a widow. She has 6 children ranging from 7 mo- 16. I continue to pray for you and your family. God has truly shown his faithfulness in you. Thank you for sharing with us how God is working in your life.

  • oh, you will make it that is for sure. My mom did for all these years. It was 49 years ago that she started that journey and we are all relatively normal and holding down honest jobs and living for God. You are in our prayers and you have the best and only God and He is big, really big and will carry you through. We are being reminded of that every day ourselves. Love you all. You are in our hearts and prayers.

  • I recently watched Courageous with my oldest who is 13.
    I wasn’t sure what he would make of it.
    There was all the statistics of trouble that children without dads tend to get involved in. But we talked about it and he felt that it doesn’t apply to him.
    He said I got a great Dad, GOD! So there is a dad in this house. Plus we got a lot of great guys at church. They keep us boys in line 🙂

    I have been doing this single mom thing for 8 years…..
    And the longer I am on it the more I see God holding my kids up and helping them excel for HIM. They are okay. We are okay.

    By the way, my son said Courageous was the best movie he ever has seen.
    And the counsel the pastor gives the griving dad, he said is soooooooo true.
    HUGS to ya Lisa