Jasper, as someone who has also experienced this type of loss I feel like I should have some great words of wisdom to say, . . . but I
don’t. I know each grief is different and each grief is experienced in different ways and so all I can say is, “I’m sorry.” But then I realize I’m not.
I’m sorry for your pain,
but I’m not sorry for your growth.
I’m sorry for the hole in your heart,
but I’m not sorry for the peace that fills that hole and soothes the frayed edges.
I’m sorry that you feel the loss,
but I’m not sorry that you had something so precious to lose.
I’m sorry you no longer have the love of a wife,
but I’m not sorry for the love that continues to surround you.
I’m sorry you are about to face one of the hardest years of your life,
but I’m not sorry for the time you will spend with God.
I’m sorry for your lost relationship,
but I’m not sorry for the many you have gained.
I’m sorry for your painful vulnerability,
but I’m not sorry for a soft heart that God can mold, shape, and use for His glory.
And so Jasper, I’m sorry, but then again . . I’m not.
Lean on Him.