• 11Feb

    I don’t know if you realize just how therapeutic writing is for me.  Writing helps me organize my thoughts, come up with solutions to problems, and voice the panic that threatens to overwhelm me.  I haven’t been able to make much time for writing lately and I’m noticing a rising hysteria in my spirit.  Christmas swallowed up a lot of time in December.  The kids were sick, parties, plays, traditions, gifts, all required time.  I don’t think we overdid it, but then again if I didn’t get the quiet time I needed maybe we did.  From there we headed off for a trip to MI to visit the in-laws and had a wonderful time reconnecting with cousins, playing in the snow, and catching up, but once again quiet time was minimal (not surprising with 17 kids around).  Then my nanny headed off to Honduras for some family vacation time for a couple of weeks and we had to survive on our own for a while.  That definitely does not permit free time.  I keep trying to tell myself that I can do this on my own.  I really don’t need all this help.  God will provide.  Then I get two weeks to do it on my own and I’m ready to throw up my hands and say “I give, Lord! No man is an island! You already provided. Please give me my help back!!”

    Anyway, what I’m trying to say is that I’m wondering if it’s time for a “sabbatical” of sorts.  Maybe I need to find a quiet place to get away for a couple of days, with no responsibilities, no demands on my time, no pressure to get something done, and reconnect with my Lord, spend hours writing and praying, and revitalize my body and spirit.  I do think I need it.  I’m just not sure how to justify it.  I don’t know of any other mothers who tell their husbands they are disappearing for the weekend to refresh themselves.  Maybe they should?

    I know I’ve talked about doing this before, but I’ve just never convinced myself that I should.  Maybe if I did better at this connecting with my Lord on a daily basis I wouldn’t feel quite the need for such a recharge.  Maybe I’m just over exaggerating.

10 Comments to Revitalize the Spirit

  • Liisa, as a mommy to 5 I know that it is hard to get some alone quiet time when you aren’t ready to fall asleep however, we all do need some time alone to think spend one on one time with God and regroup. My husband has seen the good it does for all of us and has tried to send me away for a couple days just by myself and it really has helped me to spend that quality one on one time with God. The kid’s miss me but like when I am gone because they get to do things they wouldn’t if I wasn’t. I hope you can get a way for a couple days and I think it would do you all some good.

  • Oh, I don’t think you are over exagerating. Not even a bit. I need those quiet times to once in awhile. No need to feel bad for needing a rest. Even God took a rest from His work. Revitalize and your children will be more special to you as you won’t be too tired to enjoy the little things. Love you and praying for you.

  • I have friends who do or have done just what you are suggesting. One took a weekend, another a day and night. I’m with the other 3. Do it.

  • Yes, Liisa, you need a “sanity break” once in a while.

    Take one, as soon as you can arrange for a friend (or friends) to care for the children for a day or two… so you can recover and rejoin the group.

    Love, Gram E.

  • You are single mom to seven children and are trying to raise them up in a godly manner in a sinful world……enough said.
    Go on a God Date (as I like to call them)…….husbands and wives need to get away just the two of them and you, my dear friend, need to get away with God. Praying that it works out to do this soon. In the mean time keep writing….blog or journal just don’t keep it bottled up!

  • Liisa,

    I’ve never had a break like that, though I’ve wished for some time away, just to recoup. I have taken a 1/2 day a prayer on occasion, as one of the Bible Studies I’ve been through has us do that. It has been a great 4-5 hours spent praying, soul searching, and worshiping God. I’ve always come away refreshed, though not always happy with what I discovered about myself. Having that time to rejuvenate my spirit has sometimes been just what I need to get me back on track.

  • I take a half day approximately once a month to hang out with God. We’ve worked it out so that I do it on a weekend. Immediately after the kids are in bed for their afternoon nap/quiet-time, I take off with my Bible and prayer journal. In warm weather, I head for the lake. In cold weather, I sometimes hang out at local coffee shops or just drive forever and finally park my car in a beautiful setting. I stay away for however long it takes – three hours up to well after midnight sometimes.

    I’ve never done an overnighter, because I’m limited with who will be able to watch the kids for an extended time while Jeremy works and how could I pay for an extended time away (hotels, meals, etc.)

    Every once in a while, I’ve run into that get-me-out-of-here-before-I-set-a-really-bad-example feeling, and then I run away for hour or two in the evening after the kids are in bed, but those are pretty rare due to the monthly 1/2 days alone with God.

    I’m thankful that Jeremy loves to help me get breaks, but you probably have church family and blood family who would be able to easily watch the kids during nap times or after bed time. It wouldn’t have to be a huge undertaking if you worked around the daily schedule a little. Just some (hopefully helpful) ideas — what works for me.

  • Yes, Friend! I agree with everyone. There is absolutely no reason for you to feel guilty for getting away. Everyone will be better off for it. I know lots of women who take a short break from their families with the support of a husband to get away for various reasons: girl time, shopping, time with other family, short term missions trip, etc. etc. Getting away to “regroup” and refresh and just “be” with God is a wonderful idea, and that too can speak volumes to your children. You will be communicating that as much as you love them and as important as they are to you, the most important relationship in your life is the one between you and your Heavenly Father.
    I look forward to hearing about your time away! 😉 Love and prayers!

  • Everyone has said it so well. I try to get away like that too. I also like to get away for an hour or so a week – often I go the grocery – ALONE. We need it for our sanity. Praying for you to be able to get that time alone with God for yourself and your children.