• 03Jun

    June 3, 2009

    Tonight I find myself caught in the midst of another difficult decision that before I would have just given my input and deferred the rest of this headache to Dan.  I have been given a gift for the use of furniture and I’m just not sure how to use it wisely.  Do I stretch it and pick up the pieces I need at sales, bargain bins and the like and end up with a bunch of mismatched furniture that is functional and will cover several rooms, or do I spend more money and get a matched set of furniture for just my bedroom—which I might add, I’ve never had before.

    I, naturally, lean more to the thrifty side of things.  I could get mismatched functional pieces, do some painting, stenciling, whatever, and make all the pieces blend together and I would probably be just fine.  Bedrooms are just for sleeping, right?

    But there is another side of things that I’m not quite sure how to deal with here.  My bedroom will be off limits to the kids.  It will be the place where I can relax, let down my hair so to speak, and tune the world out and rejuvenate myself.  I love my children dearly, but if I don’t have a chance to get away I cannot be the best mother for them that I need to be.  Without Dan here to help I will need that space even more since I will be dealing with the constant demands of my children from sunup to sundown without a whole lot of relief. 



    –We already have a zillion other little projects on the go, painting furniture just isn’t real high on my priority list.  

    –Having my room set up and efficient is going to be crucial for my sanity for the immediate weeks after move-in day. 

    –I like the idea of meshing bargain pieces with a room, but not real excited about multiple large pieces for one room, especially during an already busy time.  I can still do “deals” for other rooms of the house. 

    –I like easy on the pocketbook, but like a classy look.  Those don’t always mesh.


    It’s the bed that is really what’s bugging me.  I want drawers under a double or queen sized bed and a bookshelf headboard.  They have all kinds of options like that for single beds, bunk beds, etc, but are sadly lacking on options for the double/queen sized variety . . . at least at a reasonable cost (or what I think is reasonable—I am a cheap skate). 

    –Do I really need the drawers (under the bed)?  I have so few wants . . . when I finally pushed for something Dan usually went out of his way to try to accommodate . . .


    Oohh!  That thought made me cry.  He tried so hard to take care of me.  He insisted that I needed a dishwasher.  “With all these kids you don’t have time to be washing dishes.” He said.  Every so often he would come home and say, “What can we do to make the house more efficient for you?”  Sometimes he would grouch at me, “Why in the world are you doing that?  You don’t have time for that!”    


    Oh I miss him!!

9 Comments to I Think I’ll Sleep On It

  • Hi Liisa,

    I totally get what you mean about trying to keep the cost of things under control….not sure how much you use sites, like the one that I am going to mention….JUST AS AN EXAMPLE…of course, but thought it might open up a few more possibilities to you. Check it out, and remember, it is just a suggestion….


    Have a great nite !

    Michelle and Family xo

  • You are not a cheapskate, you are just a good steward with the money God has provided. Pray about it and I’m sure you will make the right decision. You are in my prayers always. GOD BLESS!!!

  • Hi Liisa!!
    I too stretch money so I understand! Here are a few places I tend to look first before going to “readl” stores. Yahoo has a group called freecycle.com. Everyone here lists things that are usable that they no longer want and are willing to give away free. It comes to my inbox daily with specifics of what people have. You can also list WANTED items. Someone may have the bed of your dreams and just don’t know what to do with and a wonderful mother of 7 would be an answer to their need!! But you can get just about anything on this site.

    The local bulletin board or trading times often has complete bedroom sets at super prices because people are moving and can’t take it with them. Auctions are also places to get great matching sets for cheap. I once got a 6 piece bedroom set for less then $300!!

    You can do ebay, and do it just for your area so if anyone there has anything you might get a good deal and easier pick up instead of all the shipping charges.

    I hope you find your bed, and I hope you have space for a big comfy chair or chaise lounge with good reading light and pretty end table just for you and a fold down table or lap table so you can read or work on a project in those stolen minutes of “Liisa Time”!!

  • Liisa, I have a queen sized bed with drawers underneath and a pretty bookshelf headboard. We’re moving into an apartment for a while, and we need to downsize our stuff. We don’t want that bed (it’s in our guest room right now). Is it possible to get that bed over to you? How? Are you even interested in having it?

    Jeremy is traveling to the North East corner of Indiana next week, and he can take the bed that far at least.

  • Well, I prefer to see it a frugal. Anyway, in my humble opinion make your room work for you, nice bed, drawers where you want them, cozy chair to sit and read/relax/have a cup of tea before bed, and then think about the other rooms and how to make them nice but inexpensive. I have found that when kids get to be 16 or so they want to choose some items for taking with when they are grown up so in the meantime do what works. Their whole room doesn’t need to match. Maybe each child’s bed and dresser could match giving them their own space as well and something that feels like it is special just for them, fancy or plain is not important as they will need bigger some day and can then look at options. But sound and functional if good. Not knowing how many beds will be in each room and the shape of each room makes it interesting for giving ideas, but being in the furnishing of kids bedrooms phase myself I tend to choose according to the size and shape of the room, ages of the kids, and that sort of thing. Anyway, there are are lots of ideas suggested by others also so have fun and let us know what you decide.

    Love you.

  • Wish I could help Missy move that bed!
    Liisa, since your room is a special place you need to like whatever furniture and decorations you have in it. If you can enjoy your space and relax with anyhting that’s ok, but if you have your hopes and dreams set on something specific you will always be wishing for your dream. I’ll pray God guides you in this difficult decision. You could also try Craig’s List, I’ve seen some great deals there – we even sold our car on it.

  • I think…if it was a gift of money for furniture, you need to get exactly what you want, for YOU. Make your room a retreat, for YOU. I think you can be frugal with children’s rooms…they are hard on furniture. I wouldn’t buy a piece of furniture with the intent on repainting of refinishing…with all the children. You probably just won’t get to it, or have the time to get it how you really want it. Then every time you see that piece, you will be reminded of all you still need to do!! Simplify. Spend the money given to you, for something beautiful you will always treasure. Then add or replace the children’s furniture as you have the money… a little at a time. I would go for quality as well. You could buy a cheap set of bunks that are used, but how long are they going to last? You could also find a solid pair of used bunks that will last for a long time. Hold out for quality. Don’t settle for something because it is functional and inexpensive. It probably won’t last…then you’ll have to buy that piece again. I’d like to see pictures of what you decide on!!! How exciting for you to be shopping for furniture. Have fun with it, and get something you really like.

  • I too lean toward the thrifty side of life. However, I DO think you NEED to do something special JUST FOR YOU!! I imagine that with so many little ones, those opportunities are a bit rare. I’ve seen our God do some pretty amazing things. Who knows – maybe HE will allow you to do both! I’ll be praying for a special blessing for you. I love you, girl and think of you often. By the way, the pictures turned out great! (I didn’t get to tell you that after you posted them!)

  • I would ask for a picture of the set that Missy is offering. If it is something you would be happy with, PTL, you will have the bed, with drawers and headboard that you want and you can think about something else that would be really nice to have…living room, I don’t know what you already have, but it is just a thought.
    I know Michelle, Mandy, Tammy and others have gotten great deals in Kijiji. Tammy just got a beautiful crib that we had priced at the store for about $1000 for $200 on Kijiji. She got exactly what she wanted, without having to pay the retail price. there are great deals to be had with a little patience.
    We would be really happy if you could have several nice things that would help to make the new home special. Happy shopping. EMD