• 25Feb
    Categories: Grieving Comments: 4

    Carolyn Mahaney says in her book “Feminine Appeal”

    “We must understand that our feelings are not authoritative.  Just because we feel something doesn’t make it true.  Our feelings are either ruled by truth or ruled by sin.  Therefore, we need to discover what is ruling our feelings to determine if they are accurate or inaccurate — righteous or sinful.”

    “Because of sin, the way we think and feel is often contrary to what Scripture commands.  Thus our need for self-control [in our thoughts and feelings].”

    The world says “You have a right to feel depressed.  The death of your husband, leaving you with seven children to care for – that should make you miserable.”  But they are wrong.  C.S. Lewis said, “It is a Christian duty, as you know, for everyone to be as happy as he can.”  I have been given much.  God has sacrificed His Son! to give me a fantastic future.  Yes, there is sadness and grief, but that is because I live in a sin cursed world.  If I am feeling depressed by my situation then I am not relying on the Lord’s strength.  I am not trusting Him with my life.  I am not relying on Him.  I am not reminding myself continually of His love, mercy, grace, compassion, faithfulness, provision, protection, . . . and the list goes on. 

    2 Corinthians 10:5 says ” . . bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;” and goes on to talk about obedience.  I need to OBEDIENTLY bring all thoughts (about 10,000 a day) in line with what God wants – Philippians 4:8 ” . . Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”  I don’t know about you, but I doubt that any of those thoughts lead to depression. 

    I find that I am struggling with the fine line of self- pity and grief.  How often am I grieving because of the hole that Dan left in our lives and how often am I grieving because of selfishness e.g. “If Dan were here I wouldn’t have to be doing this yucky task.”  Wanting Dan to be back here on this miserable earth is awfully selfish.  My focus should be on Jesus and my relationship with Him.  The closer I get to Him the closer I will get to my Danny.

    I was rebuking my children tonight for not being willing to share.  I told them that sometimes they needed to give up something that they really wanted in order to share.  If God was willing to give up something as big as His Son to share with us the gift of salvation, then we need to be willing to share little things like toys, food, and time.  I am rebuked myself.  If God was willing to give His Son, then I should be willing to give Him whatever He asks (Dan, a joyful spirit, faithful service, my children . . .)

    So, rain is no excuse.  Think right thoughts, Liisa, and rejoice in God’s willingness to share His Son with lil’ ole’ you.

  • 25Feb
    Categories: Grieving Comments: 4

    I’m in a dreary depressed mood today.  Just can’t seem to shake the college blues.  Many thanks to those who wrote with memories of their own.  I desperately wanted to hear them.  I want to go curl up some where and cry, but alas while I may have permission to grieve I have not been granted the privilege of forsaking responsibility in order to grieve.  So, I must tuck it away, keep an eye on the kids, finish school, fold piles of laundry, get lunch and supper, and hope that I get the chance after bedtime.